Isn’t it amazing how we hang on so tightly to things? We’re so good at hanging on, so good at making that effort to hang on…. that we forget we’re doing it. It’s much easier to let go and allow. Once you start, you never stop, because with letting go, comes inner peace, no stress, no worries, joy, happiness, compassion, knowledge, and love. When we let go, we open ourselves up to these things, we allow them to reach us. It’s not that they’re something we have to find, no, it’s the other way around, the things we want most in the world, are seeking us. We just have to let it happen.
A flower is not able to show itself to the world when it is still budding, it’s hanging on for dear life, trying to survive. But then one day, it lets go, and blossoms into something beautiful, and all the appreciation for it is realized by all those who see it. So we simply have to blossom, we have to know when its time to let go.
Letting go, simply means, we stop identifying ourselves with that which doesn’t serve us any longer. By recognizing that our same old reaction to the same old things, doesn’t get us anywhere. Letting go, is taking a step back from being the actor in the movie, to being the director. You start to see your problems from the perspective of a witness. Then when something happens to you, rather than cry, or tell yourself you’re not worth it, or whatever it may be…. You start to see the problem as a lesson. You stop becoming a victim of it, and you start reacting to it in different ways, in ways that say, this wouldn’t be a problem if I saw the positive in it. Then you see why the problem occurs, and you discover that it was never the problem that was the problem, but your attitude about it. You begin to meet fear with courage, anger with forgiveness, sadness with acceptance, and finally, low self esteem with strength, because you now know, that you have the power to change your situation. You’ve let go of the victim personality, and you’re becoming more and more, who you are."
Chimamamda Ngozi Adiche at TEDxEuston (via fuckinq)
This is why I have a HUGE problem with how adult women force womanhood onto young girls at such a young age, yelling at them for ‘being fast’ instead of getting on the MEN who prey on young girls.
I’m not here for it.
Not at all.
You don’t have to explain yourself for the things you do. Nor do you need a reason to say the things you say. Every time you believe you need that, you give your power away to those who judge you. Just them making you want to explain yourself, means that their opinion, their judgement, is having an impact on you. But no one will ever understand you, unless they have experienced the same things. You can’t understand them, because you haven’t experienced what they have…. so judgements fly, insults fly, opinions fly, and none of them have any relevance whatsoever to the others experience. So while someone insulting you, may believe in their insults, you must know that they’re not true to your experience, unless you give your power away and believe you must explain yourself or have a reason… Then when you can’t convince them of your ways, not in all cases, but sometimes the ego will question itself and start to believe in the insults and suddenly become a victim personality, of low self esteem. This happens all the time when racist or homophobic remarks are thrown around. It also happens when we call people sluts and whores and bitches, and ugly and so on and so forth. When none of it has anything to do with that persons experience. We must learn to simply be ourselves, and allow others to be themselves.